An exploration of the UK carer world

Carer stories                              


From the left, you may have carer responsibilities for a very young caree, a young caree or an elderly caree. 

It would be good for most readers to gain your insight. There are therapeutic aspects.

Update 25 Oct 2014 - see No 5

I not only noticed what an incredible, noble thing it is to devote your time to looking after someone more vulnerable than you, but also how little society gives a toss about it.

more in a minute



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  1. With the exception perhaps of the caree on the right in the header graphic, the other carees could also tell their stories. Incredibly if you are not immersed in the carer world, young carers start at age four. more  more

  2. You are the carer.  Why not encourage your caree to join you in a story mini-project?

More on carees here


New stories welcomed like these here.  Even better if they extend a topic etc within this website.

Here's an example from elsewhere.    

It feels to me that we, parents whose children are born with disabilities and who never "grow up and leave home", are very much forgotten about and ignored. There seems to be some assumption that we will "just do it" because they are our children. I have heard very little talk about how devastating a change this makes to our lives. 

We have to give up our own freedom and it starts when we are young and goes on till we die. 85% of marriages collapse under the strain so many Mums and some Dads get left on their own my case my husband took his own life after desperately pleading with Social services for help...not saying that's because we have disabled boys but he was struggling with his own issues and it all became too much. 

My boys are Autistic. Autism affects 5% of the population yet in most areas there is a denial of it as a disability even and precious few if no services. 

more at  source



If you are the carer and finding pushing a wheelchair 

is a challenge, there are bolt-on motors which make life 

easier.  In time, there will be a resource page for equipment.  

In the meantime, start clicking here.

Update 25 Oct 2014

You may need a WAV, see also Wiki, and more later to be written.  

Due to a drastic change in my own ability to push wheelchairs, I pick up a WAV 

in a few days time.  Update October 24 2014  here

Motability cars here.


Numerous stories


I not only noticed what an incredible, noble thing it is to devote your time to looking after someone more vulnerable than you, but also how little society gives a toss about it.

There is no training course in the world that can truly prepare you for caring: it’s something you either have or you don’t.' Photograph: Gary Calton


Megan was my younger brother's care worker. His autism and epilepsy means he needs round-the-clock assistance. Megan had split up with her boyfriend, and the minimum wage she was being paid was not enough for her to live alone – so she has to go away, to live with her parents.

source here


Now that we have delved more into the situation, we see  that a paid carer is involved.  The quotations serve as a useful link between those who are paid and those who aren't.  If you want more go to the source here.  


You will find plenty on unpaid carers such as this:

Carers . . . give their time freely; completing the same task, giving up the possibility of a paid job and a life of their own. In return for this they get far less than minimum wage in benefits - if they didn't do this then the cost to the state in the provision of care workers would be even higher.    

source - Frizbiz here


My partner is burnt out from being my carer during my mental illness 

I've been with my partner for seven years. I have suffered from mental illness for most of that time. I'm making a good recovery now, but my partner is burnt out from supporting me while I was ill. We still love each other enormously, but she says she isn't sure whether she can have a "normal" relationship with me now – she doesn't know if she can transition from being more than a "carer".   

more here

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