An exploration of the UK carer world

The right to die

  1. I must die, my love, to rid you of this burden  
  2. Suicide is for rich carees
  3. Millionaire hotelier Peter Smedley
  4. Carers Rights Day - 29 November 2013
  5. I can’t afford to die
  6. Silverline
  7. Carers Rights Day  -  Carers UK
  8. Mature Times

1   I must die, my love, to rid you of this burden               

On 14 July 2013, The Sunday Times told readers how the widow of a leading physicist - her “brilliant” husband, chose to die at a suicide clinic in Switzerland because he could not live with dementia and the thought that he was becoming an increasing “burden” on her.

The professor of petroleum engineering, who was knighted for his services to research, wanted his wife, Ann, to be “free to enjoy” the life she had missed out on while caring for him for eight years as his condition deteriorated, she said.

Ann, who wishes the couple to be known only by their first names, said her 82-year-old husband, John, had told her: “You are much younger than me; you have had no life since I’ve been really bad. There are precious years that you have missed. You haven’t had a day out with your daughters for years. Why should you be looking after me? I am going to get so bad I won’t know who I am.”

Source on this site - 14 July 2013  here     www  source

2   Suicide is for rich carees

On 7 June 2011, Telegraph readers learned about Peter Smedley who had planned his own assisted suicide and travelled to the Dignitas clinic in Switzerland to end his life. He was a millionaire hotelier and scion of the Smedley’s tinned food empire, and had been an intensely private man. 

3   Millionaire hotelier Peter Smedley's Dignitas assisted suicide - filmed by the BBC

A few days after Peter Smedley’s death last December, his close friends found individually-written letters from him in their post, telling each one how much they had meant to him. ...

“We didn’t know until after the event that he had gone to Dignitas, and we didn’t know about the film until we went to the memorial service and the film crew was there,” one of his closest friends said last night.

Telegraph 7 Jun 2011 here

4   Carers Rights Day29 November 2013

Carers Rights Day is on this website as seen here and here.. Carer support provision in every county is available to all unpaid carers.  However, little attention has been given to the cared-for who have decided they can no longer be a burden to their carers.  

Is it not time to make such choice available to all in the UK irrespective of income?  Dying at home, if inevitable,

is the ideal.  Why must we be forced into travelling so far away to achieve our end?


5   I can’t afford to die 

Managing the cost of dying in an ageing society  here       

pagetop here      for pasting  The right to die here.

6  Silver Line

Deborah Ross (times2, Nov 21) 

Britain must do more to ensure older people feel “valued”, said the television presenter Esther Rantzen this week as she launched the Silver Line, a helpline for older people modelled on ChildLine. She said old people are often made to feel like “rubbish that has been discarded” 


Silver Line  here



 7   Carers Rights Day  -  Carers UK

This year Carers Rights Day is taking place on Friday 29 November and the theme is 'rights, advice, support', focusing on ensuring that carers understand their rights and get access to good quality advice that can support them to care.

Carers Rights Day aims to make carers aware of different kinds of practical support that could support them to care ..

Each year Carers UK organises Carers Rights Day to:

  • Increase the take up of benefits – it’s estimated that millions of carers’ benefits aren’t claimed each year.
  • Make sure carers know their rights – every year, more than 2 million people become carers, ...
  • Guide carers towards practical support - it's not just about benefits. .
  • Raise awareness of the needs of carers - Carers Rights Day raises awareness of the needs of carers with the public, decision makers and professionals.


8   Mature Times - The right to die
Thursday, 05 December 2013

As we know only too well, a quarter of the UK's projected population is expected to be over 65 within 30 years from today. Of this number, an anticipated 6 million are expected to be 80 years, or over.

Unfortunately, many (too many) of us can be expected to suffer, or have relatives who will suffer, serious strokes, stroke dementia, Alzheimer’s and other terrifying age related medical conditions for which there is no hope of remission.

My own father, Gerald Arthur Govier was born in Exeter. A former athletics coach and school principal, he suffered a series of strokes whilst in his late 80s, rendering him a ‘virtual corpse’.

Years before, my father had written a clear Advance Directive stating he did not want to be kept alive, in the event of such an irretrievable situation.  

His Directive was ignored, for legal reasons. He disappeared slowly. He was barely coherent for more than a minute or 2. He was condemned to literally rot away in a costly aged care locked dementia unit for the last 9 months of his life. 

I hope my concern is shared by some of you who have endured, or will endure this type of cruel and inhuman ‘treatment’.


If the matter I have raised involves or affect you in any way please contact the Mature Times team on or 01934 864414 and they will pass on your details to me.

Mark Govier                read the full article here

pagetop here      for pasting  The right to die here.